Life is not meant to be so hard…Do you want to know how to bring more flow into your life so that becomes easier?
If you knew that incorporating 3 daily consistent actions into your life would TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE from chaos to calm would you want to know more… I have set up a PODCAST called The Honey Temple to help share all my tools and tricks of the trade that I have learned over the past 13 years and I want to share some of the golden nuggets from episode 2 with you here in case you don’t have time to listen.
Today I love life because it is in flow and I understand alignment, but I didn’t 13 years ago…In fact I was this big ball of anxiety, I woke every morning just dreading the day when there wasn’t even anything to worry about, I felt in physical pain most of the time with headaches, nausea and a bloated tummy, emotionally I was angry with others and I blamed the world around me for my crap life. I certainly never heard of the words ALIGNMENT & FLOW. In fact, I probably would have been one of those people who would have said what a load of crap…that sh**t isn’t real. No one lives like that. We have been brought up that life is hard and we got to toughen up. We simply put our heads down, work hard and don’t expect ‘a free ride’ as we don’t get anything for nothing…mmm 1st false belief! I understood that I had a physical body, a mental (mind) body, I felt emotions (big ones and was so ashamed of them) and being spiritual was going to church but all very loosely. As you know my business is called “My Wellbeing Pal” and I am a wellbeing coach, but I used to be a stressed-out marketeer. I certainly never heard of the words mind, body, soul connection and that we have 4-bodies.
Let’s start with the body. The body is made up of trillions of cells and every min of every day your cells are producing and emitting energy…these cells make up brain, blood, bones, tissues and organs. When all cells are well aligned and working happily together great things happen effortlessly…like a beautiful symphony of cells…When out of alignment life is difficult and this was my first realisation and concept of the word alignment which is defined as ‘a position of agreement’.
So, when I felt low energy in my body, experienced low moods, couldn’t focus on the tasks ahead and was easily distracted…what I should have been told by doctors was this is your body out of alignment. The thing most doctors (GPs) only focus on the body and even at that they only cover a limited amount on nutrition so they just don’t have time to help us fully go to the source and heal as they have 10 mins per person….so they pop a plaster over our symptoms to give us some relief which is great short-term fix if you understand it as such. Remember our wellbeing can be likened to a symphony of cells all working together in perfect harmony just like musicians in a band all with various roles working solo and together. So the 4 bodies: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual are connected with the conscious mind, subconscious mind and higher self…otherwise known as soul. The conscious mind is trying to accomplish one thing with the physical & mental body and it’s being burnt out so the emotional mind with the subconscious and the spiritual body (our connection to soul and our higher self) don’t get a look in.
So, what is the conscious and subconscious mind…I want you to visualise an iceberg on top of the water and then I was you to expand your awareness and look under the water and you will see how big it really is. In fact, the part you see on top is about 10% of the actual iceberg and this relates to the conscious mind (our mental and physical body) and the main part of the iceberg which is can’t see initially relates to the subconscious 90% (our spiritual and emotional bodies). The conscious mind is what is on the surface, surface thoughts, surface wishes, surface desires and surface aspirations…The subconscious is the realm of our automatic and habitual thought patterns and beliefs (automatic, stuff we do when we don’t know what we are doing) e.g., driving a car, riding a bike. The subconscious mind processes 20 million pieces of info per second whilst the conscious mind only processes 40 pieces of info over sec….a whopping 500,000 times more….so I know which one I was to connect with more… Our subconscious mind is like our memory bank. It’s stores memories, beliefs & life experiences but not all is positive…for e.g. I used to have a fear of public speaking and I traced this back to failing my 11+ and being told I was stupid as a child and to be quite a lot as I didn’t stop asking questions as a child so I created a belief that no one would want to hear what I had to days as I was not smart enough and ultimately not good enough. So, what did I do to overcome this false belief that was keeping me trapped and affected my relationships and my inherent ability to speak my truth I reprogrammed my subconscious mind by replacing the old belief with a new one and stepped into the thing that feared me to most (Instagram Lives) and kept repeating it until it got easier and easier…I practiced new thoughts and actions daily on repeat like building a new muscle with daily posts, daily lives in my private coaching groups.
When we dream it’s only our conscious mind that is sleeping so you can connect, listen to and be aware of your subconscious mind…this is why meditation is so powerful alongside visualisation and journal writing… To shift your life, you must powerfully shift your subconscious mind because the subconscious mind follows a rule; you get what you focus on…
“You are what you think and with your thoughts you make the world” Mark Haughton
He says – That small step in the right direction can end up being the biggest step in your life and it’s so true… I made a decision as soon as lockdown hit in March 2020 and haven’t looked back since. I completely changed my business and stopped my nutrition work and seeing people face to face to truly be the leader in my own life so I could ‘walk my talk’ with my followers. Nothing is impossible for the subconscious mind as it operates on pure suggestion….in fact the first book I read after I attempted suicide back in 2007 was ‘The Secret’ some of this is actually based on teachings that go back to the 3rd century in ancient times when they made a connection between our desires and the cosmos… Think about ‘learning to drive’ …it’s difficult at first but with practice we become more skilled and suddenly we move from conscious to subconscious and it becomes an automatic skill.
Overthinking is the biggest problem I see as it keeps us looping in our heads, in our mental minds. This is mostly caused by lack of confidence and fear, causing us to judge ourselves and others, to become clouded and not clear and then our stress levels rise so meditation allows us to sink into our hearts out of the head to observe and watch our lives like we are stars in a movie. The ego is that looping negative voice that keeps us over thinking….the ego reacts, blames, and wants to be right. It’s believes in false beliefs and is grounded in shame and fear. Freedom from the ego comes when you recognise you are not the ego and stop identifying with it and believing the negative thoughts that keeps us paralysed. When we identify with things, we don’t want to let them go…
I want to tell you an old Cherokee story; stories help us remember…
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life.
“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight, and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
This tale of the two wolves is very well known and I am sure you have heard it before but as will all information we will hear something different every time we listen. It portrays the good and evil (subconscious/higher self and ego/conscious mind) that lives within us. If we are unconscious of our thoughts, we are at the mercy of feeding the evil wolf….our unconscious thoughts are the unresolved or repressed parts of our psyche. The evil wolf asserts its power when we least expect it because it is hidden from view.
I mentioned the 4-body concept earlier… this is where our body is made up of four distinct parts. Physical, Emotional, Mental & Spiritual. What I have come to realise in my clinic working with over 3000 women on a one to basis from 2013 is that that the physical body is actually the emotional body. This is why I created the Hormone Balance Chakra Program with its 4 parts; Nutrition, Meditation, Yoga & Journaling to bring all 4 parts of our bodies together in alignment… You may have heard me talk about the masculine and feminine. We all have access to both traits within us not matter whether you are a male or a female and the key to alignment and getting into flow is understanding both and bringing balance. The feminine is connected to intuition and the emotional /spiritual bodies. The masculine is connected to logic and the physical/ mental bodies. In fact, the emotional body is the bridge between the physical and mental body and this is why trust and intuition are so important. We are all intuitive, not just me… there are 4 ways we can access this divine gift and you may find you do one of these really well and the others can be developed as you meditate.
Think of the senses:
HEAR: Clair-audience (those strong in this skill will love this podcast medium)
KNOW: Clair-cognizance (strong gut feelings/pick up energy around them/cant lie around them)
FEEL: Clair-sentience (that deep knowing. eg my recent miscarriage)
SEE: Clair-voyance (those strong in this skill will like to watch me on YouTube/Instagram with my visual meditations)
The word Clair means ‘clear bright’ and is connected to the word clarity which is our intuition. Intuition is that’s feeling in your gut when instinctively know that something you are doing is right or wrong.… not logical and can’t be explained who I have is why we can find it hard to understand. There has been a distinct rise of feminine energy lately and this is not about equality or women’s rights…it’s a collective energy that is available to both males and females to allow them to connect with their intuition or bring balance, alignment, abundance and flow into their lives. Accessing your feminine is all about being in the now and feeling the moment, remember the ego doesn’t like the present moment so we are able to shut down those negative thoughts that keep us in lack…we can create from a place of lack so we have to shift vibration into a state of peace…peace is the doorway to abundance….
The spiritual body is one many of us don’t connect with because we maybe associate it with church and the outdated story of control whereby, we either go to heaven and hell which doesn’t feel good so I am her to help you be a bridge to understanding this more because it gives us faith, hope and a belief that we are never actually alone and with that information we can do anything we set our mind to. I help people with that process of remembering who they are at this source/soul level which is connected to the subconscious mind and the higher self, which knows the way though. You were born with an innate knowledge that you create your own reality, that you are more than just your physical body….as babies we are so intuitive – we know when we need to eat, poop, sleep and receive cuddles and over time we lose that connection with self as our parents imprint their false beliefs and ancestral patterns on us (unconsciously- they don’t mean to they are just doing what they know to be correct). Misalignment is that discord that you have forgotten…Freedom exists within.
We have been moulded to fit in to a box to all be and act the same way in society to feel same and not be different so we can feel love and acceptance. We have done this in an attempt to make life easier, we have subconsciously given up our true freedom to create a wonderful life by falling prey to society’s structure of control, government, church, schooling, medical system. This is similar to believing that we have to worship a god that is on a pedestal , that will punish it if we eat that forbidden fruit and stray from the fold…a big false belief.
You are FREE and always have been.
We are here to experience contrast because when we know what we don’t want we then know what we do want…so that contrast helps you come to conclusions and decision about your life. When we call in desires and alignment, flow will happen in the most magical ways…the only way I can describe is life becomes a moving prayer. Emotions are signals so pay attention to them, pay attention to the way you feel, don’t try and fix, simply start with awareness and the solution will flow to you. The law of attraction states that ‘Every thought vibrates, every thought radiates, every thought attracts a matching signal back’. Whatever you are giving your attention to causes you to emit a vibration and the vibration you offer equals you’re asking, and your asking equals your point of attraction e.g.: if you desire something and constantly think about not having it you will match that vibration, so you surrender, let go and trust and act as if you already have …it’s actually universal law.
Allowing is the final part and can be the most difficult….remember your emotions are signals and they let you know if you are allowing or if you are in a state of resistance….If it were not for those resistance thoughts like I can’t (based on false beliefs that the ego keeps reminding you of) then you would be in more alignment and flow…beliefs are just thoughts that we keep thinking so what do, we do we choose a different thought which will produce a different emotional response… So how do we release resistance I can here you ask… sorry that was so loving winded I had to make sure you truly understood the foundation of teachings before we talk about the how…
1: Start with Awareness and Meditation!!
Meditation allows you to experience an absence of thought for a short period of relief and when there is an absent of thought there is an absence of resistance! Meditation allows you to quieten the mind to simply be the observer to not identify with the thoughts, it’s the ego so you can realise and allow. Meditation raises vibration so does listening to music and dancing but as there are no nightclubs open at the minute, we go to do our best ! Time in nature, walking, jogging, stroking our pets, driving is actually meditative as u zone out. So, practice this every day and repeat for at least 30 days and see how things change…start with 10-15 mins…use a guided meditation…use my meditation, sit in silence, listen to calm music whatever works for you… Click into these 30 meditations on my Podcast Channel and start there….I use creative visualisation in all my meditations which you can also find on Instagram here. This is a mental technique that uses imagination to make dreams and goals come true. Remember the subconscious mind accepts the thoughts that you offer on repeat and changes its mindset accordingly….new habits bring you closer to new opportunities and new people which lead you one step closer towards your goals.
2: Download or save the ‘scale of emotions’ below by Abraham Hicks and stick it on the wall, or as your screen saver and get to know where you are at emotionally every day. If I could give you one piece of advice, it’s to be your authentic self...this brings you into alignment straight away. To thy own self be true….thus is where you start. Awareness of the subconscious mind through understanding your emotions in any given moment is crucial to success. Every morning look at this scale and ask ‘how do I feel today’ don’t judge it…look up the scale to the next emotion and allow you mind/body to take you up the scale and so and s/o forth. To shift your life, you must powerfully shift your subconscious and this focus manifest all that you wish for… Moving you from failure to success, disease to health, poverty to prosperity, isolation to friendship and loneliness to love starting with self.
3: Learning through webinars & online events, reading books, watching videos on YouTube or Instagram, listening to podcasts like mine or others are the keys to success… even just a daily consistent habit of checking in with one that you love and resonate with for 15 mins a day. This will shift your energy in a powerful way as a belief is just a thought that we keep thinking so change the thought change the belief by listening to other thoughts….these all allow divine synchronicities to enter your world and watch how you shift from chaos to calm and things and watch the abundance will flow.
I am so grateful that you have read through it the end and are still with me… my only request is that you stay in your heart, you stay aligned to your true self, don’t say yes when you mean no, don’t accept anything less than being treated as an absolute f**king queen.
Trust that love is the highest frequency and the more you vibrate at that sacred frequency the more you will attract good things into your life….
Leigh xx